"Several years ago, had a voluntary separation," Nora recalls. However, when you're unmarried, you're more likely to follow your heart and dictate your own rules, rather than base them on legal implications and the potential for divorce. Wayne Tippetts/Shutterstock You Can Dictate The Rules Of Your Relationship (Without Being Legally Bound)Įvery relationship has its ups and downs, and periods when you grow closer and drift apart. "We feel as though we would rather spend our savings on building a home together, on our hobbies and making memories, rather than a wedding right now." "We know that one day we will get married, but have made the decision to put our focus on careers and purchasing a house first," she says. If that shifted, then we would get married."Īnd while Natasha says that marriage is still in the cards for her and Chris, living as a committed couple has enabled them to start building a foundation for when the time comes. Right now, the costs outweigh the benefits. "When we discuss the pros and cons, they’re all pragmatic. "We didn’t even consider until a couple years ago," Nora explains. Although they've been together for a decade and have a child, getting hitched simply isn't their priority. Nora, a singer from Montana, is in no rush to tie the knot with her longtime partner, William. The sheer stress of planning out nuptials is enough to put the event on pause - or avoid it, altogether. even down to our bad habits." And thanks to their no-pressure beginnings, Natasha says they're still "outdoor-loving, adventure-seeking best friends." You Can Commit Without Pressure & Prioritize Your Finances "Our relationship has been built on pure friendship, as we already knew a great deal about each other - our values, goals, trust etc. "We have been together for six years, friends for 10 years," Natasha recounts.
In fact, they started as friends, and got to know each other before they even started dating. Natasha, a retail manager from Maine, says her relationship with her boyfriend Chris is thriving because they weren't on the marriage fast track. Unfortunately, many feel the pressure to accomplish certain milestones by a certain age, from being in their dream career, to having kids, to becoming a "Mrs." But when you shift your focus from making marriage the end goal, you allow your relationship to grow organically. Although getting hitched isn't completely off the table, both say there are benefits to building a life together, sans rings.Įngagestock/Shutterstock You Can Allow Your Relationship To Grow Organically Ahead, two women share why their long-term relationships are prospering outside the marital confines. Read more: 10 Signs You’ve Found The One, According To Relationship ExpertsĪs it turns out, commitment without marriage is not just doable, it can be totally rewarding. Ultimately, marriage is a very personal choice and something that couples should talk about at length before making a decision either way."
"Others might have concerns that marriage will somehow change things and that they don't want to mess with what is already a strong and committed relationship. “Some people feel that marriage is a label and that they can be just as committed to each other without that label," she says. Rachel Lustig, a therapist at NYC Cognitive Therapy, a private practice in Manhattan, gives insight as to why some couples choose the non-traditional route. Speaking of the latter, it seems like more and more couples are opting to stay together without the vow-exchanging formalities.
Read more: 8 Signs You’re Ready To Get Married, According To Therapists The lifelong commitment just doesn't suit every lifestyle, and there are plenty of women who are single and happy, as well as those who are perfectly content with commitment sans marriage. The proverbial fairytale wedding is something many girls dream about, but once adulthood arrives (along with a big dose of reality), not everyone jumps aboard the marriage train.
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